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Do you switch into a submissive role at any time? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you? If you are in a Domestic Discipline relationship, are there things that you do not maintain control over?

The are times when I feel like I need to relax my Dominance. There are times when it’s prudent to follow rather than lead, to put down the sword so that I may rest. To put his into perspective, I think of a passage from Stephen King’s epic, The Stand, wherein the character Mother Abigail Freemantle reflects on the battle to come: “She was old. She wanted to rest and enjoy the cycle of the seasons between now and whenever God got tired of watching her make her daily round and decided to call her home to Glory. But what happened when you questioned God? The answer you got was I Am, Who I AM, and that was the end. When His own Son prayed that the cup be taken from his lips, God never even answered . . . and she wasn’t up to that snuff, no how, no way.“

I wouldn’t say I become submissive though I am capable of being such. After all, for me to become the Dom of today, I had to experience submission in years before. I have the capacity to switch but I wouldn’t consider myself a switch. I am predominantly Dominant but allow myself to be lead when it’s necessary. It helps to be able to put down the sword when I am feeling down, tired, or ill. I’m not too proud to say, “I need down time because I’m feeling low.” I don’t do it every time though and sometimes I have to be told to stand down because I am very independent and self-sufficient to a fault. My Pup and my Dad are really the only folx I will stand down for because I trust them implicitly and that the key here: Trust.

For me to feel like I can be unDominant, I need to trust the person. I can’t relax around someone I don’t know especially when it comes to my well-being. It would be like letting some rando on the bus give me a prostate massage so long as I supply the rubber glove. There was a time when I would allow anyone to do anything to me so long as it felt good. At my age, I now know better and am economical with the things I allow in my life. I have to be or I’d be drained of everything I’ve got.

Yours In Leather,
SIR Aaron Wolf