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Do you inflict discipline or punishment as part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about discipline and punishment as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

There are phrases that get a submissive’s juices flowing with fear, anticipation, anxiety, and excitement. There are the ambiguous phrases (i.e., Sneering, “You’re going to get it tonight, boy.“), direct phrases (i.e., Ferociously whispering, “I’m going to violate you hard tonight.“), dismissals (i.e., Indifferently remarking, “Not good enough, boy, I thought you wanted to please ME.“), accessing the Wolf (i.e., Growling, “I want to fucking tear you apart.“), and the administration of discipline and/or punishment (i.e., “You fucked up, boy, and there is a price to pay for your fuck-up.“).

In MY Dominance, I employ discipline more than punishment as the latter is reserved for more egregious transgressions. The dynamics I’M involved in do not lend themselves readily to the use of punishment and perhaps that’s a good thing. As a Sadist, I am economical with MY efforts and prefer to reserve MY sadistic energies for the dungeon vice doling out punishments for slights and imperfections. Too much punishment and the sadism may lose its flavour; that’s not to say that I am soft when it comes to MY dynamics. In fact, I derive pleasure in disciplining because it upholds order and instills values.

Regarding punishment, I prefer to give it in-person so I can hold the punished accountable rather than remotely. I know that I can invoke submission by developing discipline but I can only do so much. BDSM dynamics are not one-dimensional, they are multidimensional and operate on myriad variables. Like the chemical makeup of designer drugs, every dynamic is its own strain based on the culmination of ingredients every person involved contributes. My Pup and I are different from the boy and I that is different from my Dad and I. The same goes for scene partners, each person has different needs, wants, and desires, and I tailor MY administrations accordingly. Again, it’s more discipline than punishment.

I have ideas for punishment scenes that are unrealized; I’D go so far as to say they are fantasies. They are tertiary, quadrary even, to everything else though and I am not a pushy Dom/Top.

Still, there is something to be said for the pleas of the begging and the screams of the pained that give me a delicious, dark shiver. And fear…THAT’s a sensory banquet all its own that provides a sumptuous Sadist’s feast.

Yours In Leather,
SIR Aaron Wolf