A Dominant's Diary

By SIR Aaron Wolf

SIR’s Recommendations

A directory of people, places, and things that SIR has vetted, patronized, and thus recommends.

Products from LGBTQ-owned/operated skin care companies that I enjoy.

Leather Daddy
Rainbow Cammo
Soap By Moltaz Design
Triton Soap Company

Mistr
Please PrEP Me
Qcare+

TIP: If you are enrolled in a health care system (i.e., Kaiser Permanente), ask your provider to submit standing orders for HIV/STI testing so that you can get tested as often as you need it.

  • Ask The Man Who Owns Him: The Real Lives of Gay Masters & slaves by david stein with David Schacter
  • Bang Like A Porn Star: Sex Tips from the Pros by Winston Gieseke
  • Beyond Bootblacking: A Guide to Selecting & Caring for Leather Gear by Daddy Wendell
  • Bound Together: Leather, Sex, Archives, & Contemporary Art by Andy Campbell
  • Cruising: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastime by Alex Espinoza
  • The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play with Power in Scenes & Relationships by Anton Fulmen
  • Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by Princess Kali
  • Foundations of Rope Bondage: A Fun & Friendly Introduction to Rope Fundamentals by TheDuchy
  • The Heart of Dominance: A Guide to Practicing Consensual Dominance by Anton Fulmen
  • I Once Had A Master by John Preston
  • The Leather & BDSM Handbook by Vincent L. Andrews
  • The Leather Contest Guide: A Handbook for Promoters, Contestants, Judges, & Titleholders by Guy Baldwin
  • Leather Folk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, & Practice by Mark Thompson
  • Leather Mentorship by J. Tebias Perry
  • The Leatherman’s Handbook by Larry Townsend
  • The Leatherman’s Handbook II by Larry Townsend
  • The Leatherman’s Protocol Handbook: A Handbook on “Old Guard” Rituals, Traditions & Protocols by John D. Weal
  • Leathersex Q&A: Questions About Leathersex & the Leather Lifestyle Answered by Joseph W. Bean
  • The Life & Times of the Legendary Larry Townsend by Jack Fritscher
  • Life, Leather & the Pursuit of Happiness: Life, History & Culture in the Leather/BDSM/Fetish Community by Steve Lenius
  • The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up: Tips for Rope Bondage Bottoms by Evie Vane
  • Making Bank: A Money Management Workbook for Erotic Entrepreneurs by Princess Kali
  • Master/slave Mastery – Updated: Updated Handbook of Concepts, Approaches & Practices by Robert J. Ruble, Ph.D. and M. Jen Fairfield
  • More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage & Intimate Connection by Lee Harrington
  • Painfully Obvious: An Irreverent & Unauthorized Manual for Leather/SM by Robert Davolt
  • ProDom Playbook: A Step-by-Step Guide for Erotic Entrepreneurs to Create a Superstar Brand & High Client Retention by Princess Kali
  • Real Service by Raven Kaldera & Joshua Tenpenny
  • SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
  • Tie Me Up!: The Complete Guide to Bondage by Stephan Niederwieser
  • Tom of Finland: His Life & Times by P. Valentine Hooven III
  • TRUST/The Hand Book: A Guide to the Sensual & Spiritual Art of Handballing by Bert Herrman