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Is spanking or corporal punishment part of your Dominance? Why or why not? How do you feel about spanking and/or corporal punishment as tools used to invoke and maintain submission from your partner/s?

According to Merriam-Webster, corporal punishment is defined as “punishment that involves hitting someone : physical punishment.” What comes to mind for me? Well, I think of the time I had to go find my own switch to give to my father because I’d committed some wrong. I can’t remember the transgression being less than 10 years of age at that time. My father was a tough yet gentle man, he could be stern and loving. The role of disciplinarian was his, though I recall very few times when I or my siblings ever felt switch or hand. Tough as he was, seeing his children in pain was something he hated and to be the one inflicting the pain was not something he wanted. I believe I inherited my father’s stern visage and penchant for tough love. I believe I also inherited the ability to slice and soothe with words from my mother who had been the erratic heart of the family. She never lifted a hand to me that I recall but she was more willing to offer a forceful palm than my father. Corporal punishment wasn’t a thing in the household but that didn’t mean punishment wasn’t doled out. It was, just in the form of verbal cuts that stung and ached longer than any blow or swat. The wounds ran deeper and lasted longer, leaving no physical scars. Those formed within and would metastasize into insecurities, fears, and all manner of pathologies an adolescent boy could cultivate.

To answer the question, yes, spanking is part of my Dominance and is often administered in the dungeon or, as my Pup can attest, the house hallway where I can get a good running start before making glorious impact. The resulting yelp is enough to sustain me for a few hours, the memory giving me a good chuckle even years later. In fact, I’m laughing as I type this out. *sigh* Good times.

In the context of the dungeon, spanking is within my repertoire and I use it in my impact and sensation play scenes. Punishment doesn’t come in mind when I’m in-scene, it’s the development and sustainment of the connection between my sub and I that is the factor. I suppose if it were negotiated to have some sort of corporal punishment scene, I could do it. After all, I do enjoy yelps of surprise and pain as much as I do making contact with a quivering ass with my hand.

I think that spanking can invoke submission if it is administered with verbal accompaniment: “Are you going to be a good boy for me? What? *spank* I can’t fucking hear you, boy. *spank* Now…let’s try this again. Don’t make me wait for an answer again.” There is also truth in the phrase, “Beaten into submission.” I’ve been there in my own submission when I was spanked into obedience. I think it can be a great tool and all it requires is a hand and a willing pair of buttocks.

Of course, you, too, can make it extra special with a running start. Just saying.

Yours In Leather,
SIR Aaron Wolf